Why is it that your best friend could be in the relationship from hell, your cousin could be in an uneventful marriage, but people still feel sorry for you for being single? Is something wrong here? Single life can be the most exciting time of your life.What's wrong with being single?
Visit any bookstore and you'll find dozens of books about relationships; how to keep them together, how to grieve the loss of a loved one, how to find and keep the "perfect" mate, how to satisfy your lover sexually, and the list goes on and on. Rarely will you find books on being single unless they relate to healing some aspect of yourself in preparation for a relationship.
The most annoying is ~ friends, family, and coworkers love to set singles up with blind dates (and we all know how satisfying those are). The message couldn't be clearer. It's not okay to be alone. You know who you are.... ya, is you!
Being single allows us to do what we want, when we want, and with whom we want without having to answer to anyone. Being single allows us to take full responsibility for paying our bills, cleaning and decorating, planning our activities, and entertaining ourselves. It allows us the time to sit quietly and comfortly in couch, to run naked around the living room, oops, haha.. This is because we have more time on our hands and are not avoiding looking at ourselves by focusing our energies on someone else.
Dun worry, i will still say yes to every opportunity to learn, grow and meet new people. It's best to go and branch out. Networking is essential to this point of life.
I am grateful for what I have. After the grieving period, I focus on what Ido have for example, good health and a good support system of family and friends, and a good career and additional side incomes I earn by being a Nuskin distributor. Well, one must have a productive day, and learn to love ourselves and also our loved one.
I realise many of us did not pay much attention to our family members. They do not deserve your time? Your warm hug? Your warm concern? I tell you They do! They deserve it! You spent so much attention on your dog, your internet, your partners, your job; spend sometime for them, for god sake.
I don't have to be dating somebody to have a intimate and fulfilling relationship with them. However, I am not afraid to invest myself in deep relationships with other people.
I decide myself if there are aspects of my life or my personality that I would like to change and do it. I am my best evaluator. I don't need to listen to those people who tell me that I am single because I am too "picky", or too old to meet someone else.
I am thinking about all the things I can do because i am now single. I could take off and go travelling without discussing it with somebody else. I can watch TV all day without being called lazy. I don't actually have to do these things but, sometimes, just the knowledge that I could, ya, this is enough to make me feel great.
=.= I have declined 2 dates on valentine's day, am I mad or what...